Sunday, 3 November 2013

Reflecting on Hallowe'en and Working with Children




 
Hallowe’en has come and gone for another year, so time for some thoughts on this now controversial "holiday". 
 
  Grinning jack o’lanterns and ersatz spider webs still festoon porches and businesses.   We’re all munching on leftover candy or that purloined from our children. There was a lot of talk about how to celebrate Halloween with children in the local media.  Having so many newcomers living here gives us a chance to think about what we do and why.  I can’t imagine what it’s like to immigrate here and see homes with tombstones in the yard, scary images of old women, images of death, and the absurdity of seeing a clown or Spiderman sitting in the car next to you at a stop light. We have many families here who have escaped horrors of war, persecution, and unfathomable natural disasters.  Here in Canada we have been so relatively safe for so long that we like to scare ourselves for fun.  The amount of time and money that we can put into outlandish costumes must seem a luxury to an outsider too.  Just last evening my South Asian cab driver was in awe of a fare on her way to a party who was wearing a scuba outfit, complete with flippers and “air tanks” consisting of two bottles of booze strapped to her back.  Often in Canada our biggest Halloween problem is how to use the toilet while in costume.  What a blessed place to be able to play in such a way.
Getting back to the matter of children and Halloween, many people feel the morbidity of Halloween is inappropriate, and the expectation of a costume and candy is a big expectation to put upon families.  Very important considerations in working with families of diverse backgrounds.  Also, teachers and early childhood educators have to deal with many religious considerations, inappropriate costumes; swords, guns, knives, Miley Cyrus, slutty Disney princesses, cheap costumes that rip and break the wearer’s heart, children with no costumes, parents who shove a bag of costume stuff at you, little kids who are afraid of their own costumes, etc.   So some places choose to have Black and Orange Day, Dress as Your Favourite Saint Day, or ban it all together.  It supposedly takes the pressure off everyone. 
Early Literacy Specialist, William Shakespeare leads Halloween Circle at the DVE Ontario Early Years Centre
 
As a RECE who has survived many, many, Halloweens with other people’s children, as a mom of my own children, a big sister to hoards, and as a child who loved to dress up myself, I think Halloween can be a playful and really fun day for children.
Working in this field, I know children get excited about other holidays too, but not as much as they do about Halloween.  People used to worry that children got too worked up too soon about Christmas.  We wouldn’t decorate our child care before December 1st in an effort to keep the frenzy in check.  In reality, for most of November the children still wanted to chant Five Little Pumpkins and reread The Dark Dark Tale, by Ruth Brown.  (This is normal child behaviour that ECES would often try to stop by saying, “Halloween’s over, we’re not singing that.”  But that’s a blog for another day!)
On December 1st  and even December 20th, the children could still be heard saying, “Next year I’m going to be . . .”  It’s the one day of the year when little children, who very often feel powerless in the big old world, can be whomever and whatever they want to be.  They fantasize about it, change their minds, and wonder about it all year long.  In my opinion, that is likely the biggest part of the fun of Halloween.  Maybe I’ll be Iron Man, or Usain Bolt, or Fairy Queen, or a baseball player, or a Zombie, or a Zombie – insert anything-here, or Sherlock Holmes, or Medusa, or French Toast, or . . .  And then they have a costume they can wear around the house, or to family birthday parties: “You said I could wear something nice to Grandma’s.  Buzz Lightyear is nice.” 
My friend and colleague, Fumiko Fujikawa has incorporated Halloween in her English School in Ikoma City in Japan. The children and parents love it just as much as Fumiko does; and they learn new vocabulary in a meaningful way.  https://www.facebook.com/flat.ed My friend and colleague Cherry Xu has incorporated into her school in Changzhou, China too.  http://www.cherryskids.ca/gallery.html
 
So, as I contemplate what I'll be next year, I smile a the pictures I'm seeing of family and friends enjoying the fun and imagination of Hallowe'en 2013. 
 
 

Tuesday, 29 October 2013


Another session of yoga at a local child care provides me with so much inspiration. 

 


Every two weeks since Labour Day, I have had the privilege of doing yoga with the infants, toddlers, and preschoolers at a child care in my neighbourhood.  The development and openness of the children to exploring moving their bodies, and the openness to new sensations is awe-inspiring.  The toddlers love the sensation of the Nepalese singing bowl on their tummies or backs, while we play the mesmerizing voice of Snatam Kaur.  We are allowed to watch as they soak up the experience.  They are totally present.  They love moving their bodies and challenging them.  As soon as I walked in the room today, one little boy and one little girl immediately moved into Downward Dog. 

At the end of the 20 minute toddler session, the children sing my yoga teacher Amanda McFayden’s original yoga song (we need to have her put on You Tube). http://www.blisskids.ca/ As Amanda taught me, when finishing the song we take a big peace breath and then I say, “Give yourself some love”; they  hug themselves, “Give someone else some love”; they hug someone else, and “Namaste”.  The children are so free and real with their hugs for each other, and for their teachers, and for me.  It is truly a wonderful way to explore love and kindness in a simple way. 

The Toddlers’ teachers tell me that on “yoga days”, the children are much calmer.  They now use Snatam Kaur’s http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL5146359B64AE219C music at rest time.  They all associate it with slower, deeper breathing and relaxation – adults, as well as children.  

And when I leave, I am happy and energized from this wonderful sharing.  Namaste everyone.
 
P.S.  Looking forward to doing a workshop for Upper Canada Child Care Centres on spirituality and children next month!

Tuesday, 24 September 2013

Are Playground Injuries Really Where We’re Hurting Most? | PlayGroundology

Are Playground Injuries Really Where We’re Hurting Most? | PlayGroundology

Love this important Posting on playgrounds, the need for risk, mention of children's mental health, and the need to educate families and educators and caregivers! 

Monday, 27 May 2013


Looking for a great workshop for your staff? 
 Literacy, numeracy, science and nature, big body play, and of course yoga are some of my favourites.

Looking for a fun and beneficial option for your school age program?  Yoga!  I am a two-time graduate of Rainbow Kids Yoga, as well as a certified Hatha yoga instructor, with additional training for working with older adults.  I am registered with the Canadian Yoga Alliance, as well as the College of Early Childhood Educators of Ontario.  See my flyer below.




Yoga with Children, Big Body Play, Team-building

Enjoy a workshop with RECE and RYT Terry Kelly. 
I shall collaborate with your organization to create a customized workshop to meet your needs.
I have 12 years’ experience presenting workshops with best adult education practices, and relevance to the latest research and Ontario’s Early Learning Framework.  Previous clients include Child and Family Cooperative, York Region; A.E.C.E.O., Black Creek Community Health Centre, Toronto; F.L.a.T. English School, Ikoma City, Japan; Cherry’s Kids Lab School, Chang Zhou, China, Canadian Association for Young Children.  I also have workshops to strengthen early literacy and numeracy practices, behaviour guidance, science and nature exploration, and loose parts play.  Why send one or two staff to a big conference when you can train your whole team for less money?  

I also offer yoga for children preschool to school-age; a great summer camp or PD day option.
Contact Terry Kelly for more information.  I look forward to hearing from you.
Twitter @Tecekelly
Reasonable and competitive rates.  




 

Saturday, 13 April 2013



What Children Teach Us



A typically developing baby learns to walk, not by being told to, “Go develop your muscles, then practice by cruising the big-people furniture.” Then, “Be brave, trust your own ability, take a step toward Daddy.  Oh you fell. Too bad.  Try about seventy-five more times and then you’ll be able to toddle a bit.  Watch that big head of yours!  Learn to balance! Down again?  Try more. You’ll get it eventually.”  No.  A baby is internally motivated to just keep going for it.  Even though we in North America tether out babies in plastic contraptions, and ill-fitting shoes for many hours of their day, they still learn how to walk without being enrolled in lessons, expensive tutors or coaches.  Their lesson for us is huge, if only we adults will notice. Children can teach us so much, and point us to a better society.

In many first peoples’ teachings, it is a recognized responsibility of the infant to teach those adults on the opposite side of the Medicine Wheel about loving, selflessness, caring, patience, and more.  In reading Thomas Walkom’s April 13/13 column in the Toronto Star, I am again reminded of how are children teach us. 



Walkom’s anonymous source on outsourcing Canadian jobs being linked to the decimation of our middle class, did admit that she has a child.  She wants a better world for her child. For the 10 years previous, she made very good money outsourcing the jobs.  Having a child changes people – for the better.  It changes their brains.  It changes their perspectives. They want a better world for their child, and expect more of themselves.  It appears that Lance Armstrong’s son unknowingly defending his father’s lies changed Armstrong in a way that other factors couldn’t, as he admitted in his interview with Oprah.

In my role as parent/caregiver educator I would lead discussions on brain development, screen time, and media literacy for new parents.  On two separate occasions, I had a mother in my group who was on maternity leave from an advertising career state that she couldn’t morally go back to her job, now that she had a child of her own.  The insidious marketing of questionable products to children is big business.  
     
As a child care centre supervisor in a high school, the staff and I would often stroll the babies through the halls on rainy days because we couldn’t go outside.  When I apologized to a teacher for the babies’ exuberant chirps outside her classroom, her replay was, “Bring those babies by anytime.  They turn my students back into humans in a flash.”  She explained that the teenagers  spent a lot of time showing off for their peers, swearing, “acting cool”, but when they saw the little people it seemed to remind them of their real selves.  


I remember hearing former RBC executive  Charles Coffey speaking at an early childhood education conference saying how when powerful men became grandfathers, it usually changed their perspective significant way – for the better of their companies and society.
Canadian, Mary Gordon’s successful anti-bullying program, Roots of Empathy is built upon the wisdom of babies, and helps promote human understanding in classrooms all around the world.

Addhttp://www.thecanadiandaily.ca/2013/04/01/roots-of-empathy/


There are many more examples of babies teaching us to make the world a better place.  If only we will listen, Canada could be better for all of us.  


My dad and me, 1960

Saturday, 6 April 2013



 
Photo : http://aurora.anandayogastudios.com/

Playing on a Saturday Afternoon



Today through my work, I was able to play with some 9, 10, and 11 year olds.  They were taking risks (one of the best elements of true play), and reaping the benefits!  Inspirational!  Recently, I attended an Arm Balancing Workshop by Sergey Tsatsura at the Ananda Studio Aurora.  At first all we attendees were dutifully lined up on our mats, very hushed and serious.  After an hour or so, we were all playing.  Playing with our bodies, playing with balance, strength, and laughter.  This is what I love about yoga, it takes pretty serious adults back to children playing on the grass on summer’s day.  “Hey, can you do this?”  “I dunno.  Let me try.”  And if you fall on your face, you just try again.  “Well how about this?”  




I was inspired to take this workshop for two reasons, the first reason is that upper body strength is not my forté and I wanted to challenge myself.  The second reason, is that at most family gatherings now, my 10 year-old niece ends up challenging the grown-ups to her latest “trick”. She says, “Aunt Terry watch this!”, and in the spirit of play and over-fifty pride (not very yogi!) I say, “Oh, yeah.  Let me try.” My amazing little niece can do a one-arm handstand against a wall.  I cannot . . . yet.
Some other family members often get into the act as well. Good times.  





 
The exploration of this topic wouldn’t be complete without remembering adventures of my youth which included backpacking around Europe, meeting up with plenty of Aussies.  One of whom taught me to drink beer standing on my head.  So I was practicing for being a yogi, long before I knew much more about eastern philosophy than Jai Guru Deva. Om as sung by the Beatles in Across the Universe. 

 
Beer Yoga at the Pink Palace on Paradise Beach - Thanks Jude!

 

Words are flowing out like
Endless rain into a paper cup
They slither wildly as they slip away across the universe.
Pools of sorrow waves of joy
Are drifting through my opened mind
Possessing and caressing me.

Jai Guru Deva. Om
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world

Images of broken light, which
Dance before me like a million eyes,
They call me on and on across the universe.
Thoughts meander like a
Restless wind inside a letter box
They tumble blindly as they make their way across the universe.

Jai Guru Deva. Om
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world

Sounds of laughter, shades of life
Are ringing through my opened ears
Inciting and inviting me.
Limitless undying love, which
Shines around me like a million suns,
It calls me on and on across the universe

Jai Guru Deva.
Jai Guru Deva.
Jai Guru Deva.
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world
Nothing's gonna change my world


Namaste, John Lennon