Saturday, 13 April 2013



What Children Teach Us



A typically developing baby learns to walk, not by being told to, “Go develop your muscles, then practice by cruising the big-people furniture.” Then, “Be brave, trust your own ability, take a step toward Daddy.  Oh you fell. Too bad.  Try about seventy-five more times and then you’ll be able to toddle a bit.  Watch that big head of yours!  Learn to balance! Down again?  Try more. You’ll get it eventually.”  No.  A baby is internally motivated to just keep going for it.  Even though we in North America tether out babies in plastic contraptions, and ill-fitting shoes for many hours of their day, they still learn how to walk without being enrolled in lessons, expensive tutors or coaches.  Their lesson for us is huge, if only we adults will notice. Children can teach us so much, and point us to a better society.

In many first peoples’ teachings, it is a recognized responsibility of the infant to teach those adults on the opposite side of the Medicine Wheel about loving, selflessness, caring, patience, and more.  In reading Thomas Walkom’s April 13/13 column in the Toronto Star, I am again reminded of how are children teach us. 



Walkom’s anonymous source on outsourcing Canadian jobs being linked to the decimation of our middle class, did admit that she has a child.  She wants a better world for her child. For the 10 years previous, she made very good money outsourcing the jobs.  Having a child changes people – for the better.  It changes their brains.  It changes their perspectives. They want a better world for their child, and expect more of themselves.  It appears that Lance Armstrong’s son unknowingly defending his father’s lies changed Armstrong in a way that other factors couldn’t, as he admitted in his interview with Oprah.

In my role as parent/caregiver educator I would lead discussions on brain development, screen time, and media literacy for new parents.  On two separate occasions, I had a mother in my group who was on maternity leave from an advertising career state that she couldn’t morally go back to her job, now that she had a child of her own.  The insidious marketing of questionable products to children is big business.  
     
As a child care centre supervisor in a high school, the staff and I would often stroll the babies through the halls on rainy days because we couldn’t go outside.  When I apologized to a teacher for the babies’ exuberant chirps outside her classroom, her replay was, “Bring those babies by anytime.  They turn my students back into humans in a flash.”  She explained that the teenagers  spent a lot of time showing off for their peers, swearing, “acting cool”, but when they saw the little people it seemed to remind them of their real selves.  


I remember hearing former RBC executive  Charles Coffey speaking at an early childhood education conference saying how when powerful men became grandfathers, it usually changed their perspective significant way – for the better of their companies and society.
Canadian, Mary Gordon’s successful anti-bullying program, Roots of Empathy is built upon the wisdom of babies, and helps promote human understanding in classrooms all around the world.

Addhttp://www.thecanadiandaily.ca/2013/04/01/roots-of-empathy/


There are many more examples of babies teaching us to make the world a better place.  If only we will listen, Canada could be better for all of us.  


My dad and me, 1960

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